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When Men Hurt: God Sees Their Scars


There is a truth we don’t speak often enough:
Men hurt too.

Not loudly.
Not publicly.
Not with the same emotional language women use.
But deeply.

And Scripture reveals that God has always cared about the heart of a man. He has always seen their wounds, their fears, their pressures, and their silent battles.

This blog simply reflects what the Word already says.


The Word Shows Us That Men Break, Feel, and Cry Out

Scripture never shames a man for feeling. Instead, it shows us men who felt deeply and were still called strong.

  • David said, “My heart is in anguish within me” (Psalm 55:4).
  • Jeremiah cried, “Oh that my head were waters, and my eyes a fountain of tears” (Jeremiah 9:1).
  • Elijah, overwhelmed, prayed, “It is enough; now, O Lord, take away my life” (1 Kings 19:4).
  • Jesus wept (John 11:35).

These scriptures prove:

It is not weak for a man to feel. It is biblical. It is holy. It is allowed.


Men Carry Scars From Men Who Were Never Healed

Many men today are not broken — they are inheritedly wounded.

They carry:

  • The silence of fathers who never spoke
  • The hardness of men who were never nurtured
  • The anger of men who were never healed
  • The pressure of being “strong” without guidance
  • The shame of emotions they were taught to suppress

These wounds didn’t start with them.
They were passed down.

And God sees every scar.

Psalm 147:3 says:
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

This includes men.


God’s Desire for Men: Strength With Sensitivity

God never designed men to be:

  • Emotionless
  • Hardened
  • Silent
  • Closed off

He designed them to reflect His nature:

  • Strong yet compassionate
  • Bold yet humble
  • Leaders yet listeners
  • Providers yet tender

Micah 6:8 captures God’s heart for men:
“Do justly, love mercy, walk humbly with your God.”

This is the blueprint for a healed man.


What Men Need to Be Rebuilt

The Scripture is enough to show the path.
These words simply illuminate it.

Men need:

1. Permission to Feel

God invites men to bring their emotions to Him.
“Cast your cares on Him, for He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)

2. Space to Heal

Healing requires honesty.
“Pour out your heart before Him.” (Psalm 62:8)

3. Emotional Language

Many men were never taught how to name what they feel — but God understands even unspoken groans.
“The Spirit Himself intercedes… with groanings too deep for words.” (Romans 8:26)

4. Accountability Without Shame

God corrects, but He does not condemn.
“Whom the Lord loves He corrects.” (Proverbs 3:12)

5. Encouragement

Men rise when they are affirmed.
“Encourage one another and build each other up.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

6. Healing From Father Wounds

God steps in where earthly fathers failed.
“I will be a Father to you.” (2 Corinthians 6:18)

7. Time

Healing is a process.
“He who began a good work in you will complete it.” (Philippians 1:6)


The Truth: Feeling Is Not Weakness

This Scripture you:

God never rebuked a man for feeling.
He rebuked men for hiding from Him.

Feeling is not weakness.
Feeling is access.
Feeling is surrender.
Feeling is the doorway to healing.

A man who feels is a man who can heal.
A man who heals is a man who can lead.
A man who leads from healing becomes a blessing to generations.


A Prayer for the Men We Love

“Father, heal the wounded places in our men.
Restore their sensitivity, their strength, and their identity.
Break the generational patterns that hardened them.
Teach them how to feel without shame,
how to lead without fear,
and how to love without reservation.
Rebuild them from the inside out.
Amen.”


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